Dating a less attractive guy
Dating a less attractive guy
During our most recent debate, my mother dramatically shook her head as I eagerly reached over our table at Red Lobster to show my sister a photo of a former professor, whom I’d been totally enamored with since our first day of classes.My sister’s eyes grew wide as she rested them on the photo depicting a 30-something male with 1960’s-thick Coke bottle glasses and an afro unruly enough to make Questlove wince.
Physical appearance played at least 70 percent of the part in my choices when it came to the guys that I dated.But I quickly gleaned that life spent in the company of a self-serving simpleton is no life at all. Yes, we started out shallow, now we're here: As women mature, we rarely see our partner's appearance as a measure of our own value, in stark contrast to those men who try to distract us from their deep-seated insecurities by dragging an extra-shiny, much-hotter lady friend around with them like an overpriced designer handbag.(Timely case in point: our newish president, whose ego is more fragile than a Ming vase and whose looks are ten thousand leagues under Melania's sea.) At a time when women look better, value appearance less, and don't feel the need to prop up their sense of self-worth with arm candy as men do, perhaps it's only natural to encounter mismatched-looking couples roaming about, openly challenging Darwin's views of sexual selection.Ever so often, my mom, my older sister, and myself find ourselves in the midst of hilarious debates about how differently my sister and I approach men and dating.While my sister prefers the guy with the Abercrombie & Fitch abs, the Colgate smile and the Michael Ealy eyes, I’d much rather get to know the guy with substance and an amazing personality, who doesn’t mind dissecting Bible scriptures for deeper meaning or discussing Harlem Renaissance literature with me (even if he has a few less points in the attractive department).Researchers analysed 113 recently married couples in Texas in their late twenties.
Evaluators from Southern Methodist University and Florida State University rated couples by their attractiveness (though why they were trusted as the arbiters of good looks is anyone's guess).
When it comes to looks however, most of us are resigned to the fact the other sex are only looking for and happy with the best looking person available.
Not the case, according to a new study from Florida State University, which has found relationships are more likely to be successful when the woman is better looking than the man.
I’ve simply grown up, and what’s on the outside isn’t as important to me anymore as what’s on the inside.
There are many elements to a successful relationship – pretending to listen in bed when you've actually been engrossed in your phone for half an hour, for example.
I always had to date the bad boy or the fly boy or the class clown.