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Personally, I only know a handful of girls from Africa who are married to black American men.So, wanting to know what my friends thought, I posted this question on my Facebook page: One of my clients, an African American male asked me an interesting question the other day: “WHY IS IT THAT IN THE U. ESPECIALLY, YOU DON’T OFTEN FIND AFRICAN WOMEN WHO MARRY OUTSIDE THEIR CULTURE, ESPECIALLY TO BLACK AMERICAN MALES?
Only by so doing and gaining adequate knowledge/understanding of what angles we are all coming from will the demystification process begin …”In a few words …Lisa summed it up when she wrote: “… Stereotypes, cultural differences, a natural wariness of the unfamiliar and other complexities – let’s admit a fair number of Africans feel superior to African Americans – all play a role.
A couple of girls felt that the African Americans tend to think that they are superior to Africans, showing less respect for them than the Caucasians who are more open to learning about different cultures.
Distrust African women tend to believe that African American men are ‘playas’, out looking for nothing but a good time.
But given the low degree of interaction between both communities, it’s little wonder few ever get past first base and these all important questions never even come up.”I would say, having lived in the United States for almost 10 years, I have had the opportunity to work with African Americans on a regular basis, and have gotten close to many who are now like family.
Personally, I believe that there are huge walls of ignorant stereotypes between us when we first meet, but once these begin to be broken down (which happens especially when both groups have no choice but to get along), we find that we really have a lot more in common.
I think the same rules should apply for cross-cultural/ relationships as for any other: does he/she love, respect, and value you and the relationship?
Is he/she a morally upright and responsible person?
I plan on later becoming a Marriage and Family counselor so I THINK the best place to start is within my own relationship, Sometimes he is the sweetest man ever, and I adore spending time with him, then at times its like he's sitting on a throne and I am catering more to his needs than he is to mines.
Sometimes I think common sense should tell a man how to act towards his woman, but then I remember we have different views, I just basically would like to know why he can't/ or won't diverge away from his traditions for just a while (relationship wise), because I consider myself to be feminist, yet I've sacrificed some of that pride and cooked a few meals, cleaned up a bit, and done so without griping or complaining, wonder if he'd do the same, You will definitely expect different things like behaviours and understanding of opinions.
Most folks “tend to be comfortable with the culture they can identify with”, Anthony said.
Not enough interaction Diane kind of hit the nail on the head when she wrote: “On my part, I think both parties have bought into the stereotypes.
…”There were quite a few comments left, most of them by African females; unscripted, they show real undiluted thoughts that run in our community.