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I've been bald from an autoimmune condition called alopecia areata for most of my dating career.
Society dictates that baldness in women be reduced to a form of demoralising punishment, sacrifice (shave for a cure, where alongside fund-raising we show solidarity and empathy for those experiencing a diminished sense of self following hair loss), a devastating side-effect of cancer treatments, or a sign of ultimate evil (Satan in is played by a bald, eyebrowless woman because that's apparently the most sinister and repugnant image known to mankind. When your dateability is entwined with your physical appearance, being a bald woman can make you feel like you don't have options.
I knew that people were taking me, literally, at face value, when my appearance was something I'd meticulously crafted over hours in the privacy of my own bathroom.
My appearance was a sham, but I kept it a secret because I feared flat-out rejection.
Alopecia affects around two per cent of the Australian population, which is close to half a million people.
I've experienced alternating periods of complete baldness to having a full head of hair, but for the past three years I've had no head hair, no eyebrows and have lost most of my eyelashes. Particularly as a young woman — someone whose physical appearance is weighted above all else as her most defining and valued characteristic.
I would die alone, bald and sassy and surrounded by stray animals.
When you aren't up front about your baldness, dating involves a certain degree of deception, which isn't a healthy place for a relationship to start.For instance, are you supposed to tell your date that you are losing your hair? Luckily, when that happened to me, I had told that date I wore a hair piece, and he assisted me in retrieving it and re-attaching it!Regardless of whether their hair loss was due to Androgenetic Alopecia, (aka Female Hereditary Thinning), Alopecia Areata or Chemotherapy Treatments, all of the women were a little shell shocked about their hair loss.Before each date, there is a checklist of questions for me to consider, most of which are wig-related.(I wear a wig in public simply because it makes everyday interactions easier and means I can avoid questions about cancer, religious extremism and what is endlessly baffling, lesbianism. Will it be cold enough to wear a hat for added security?What if his hand, or worse, brushes off both my eyebrows?